Late last night, I received this from from Malcolm Hardee Comedy Award winning Becky Fury…
I am travelling in Morocco.
John said there was probably a blog in it.
I told him I wasn’t sure where.
He said: “Find someone interesting to interview.”
I am travelling with Jade Lotus, who is a Tantra educator and her boyfriend who has a magic penis.
So I asked her about that.
BECKY: When we first met, you had just graduated from Kings College, London, with a law degree and now you are a globetrotting Tantra educator on a mission to give yourself and the world better orgasms… What happened?
JADE: By the time I finished my law degree, I realised law was really boring and I wanted to do something more fun with my life. But I still wanted to help people and realised if people got more help with their sexuality than maybe they would need less help with their divorce papers. So being a Tantra educator was a win-win situation for everyone.
BECKY: Whilst we were flying to Morocco you were making a GIF for your website that involved an image of your boyfriend’s penis. As the person in the seat next to me exclaimed: “Have you no shame?”
JADE: I think people should only feel ashamed if they hurt other people. Shame and guilt is a mechanism of social control that is used to stop people blossoming. We are in Morocco which is a country ridden with shame and guilt: sexual shame in particular. You would be hard-pressed to find someone here who isn’t deeply ashamed of their body and their desires – and unfortunately people pay for this in many ways, not just sexual enjoyment.
In terms of sex. we should not feel ashamed unless what we do doesn’t involve consent.
We are sexual beings and shame is a psychological barrier that stops us from fulfilling our potential.
As I mentioned before, we are in Morocco.
The dirt on the streets, the tatty buildings and the broken sign at the railway station that reads ‘Gare Evil’ or ‘Evil Station’ is a reflection of the manifestation of hell on earth that sexual shame creates.
BECKY: So is good sex a revolutionary act?
JADE: Yes. When a person is stuck in a cycle of sex as tension-release instead of getting the full experience of sex, they are stuck in a low-grade experience and this will be reflected in their life.
We are in Morocco. People earn tiny wages, there are no workers rights and therefore people are treated badly as employees. This is a projection of the sexual repression.
If we can dispose of the shame and guilt associated with sex, then we open ourselves as people and as a society and we can start to evolve. The more pleasure we find in sex, the more value we find in ourselves as individuals and in each other.
Good sex is a beautiful, peaceful revolutionary act that has the power to overhaul ourselves and eventually the world.
BECKY: In your GIF, the boy has a magic penis. Just the boy in the GIF? Or all boys?
JADE: All boys have magic penises. All penises are magic and all vaginas are magic. (LAUGHS) All sexual organs hold energy.
Most men think sex is about ejaculation. Imagine if we channeled that energy, that life force, into healing ourselves. If we used that energy to feed our intelligence, our creativity, our projects, to get what we want in life rather than throwing it away. That’s a big part of Tantra.
BECKY: So how do you know that that’s not just hippy bollocks?
JADE: ’The hippy’ is a recent phenomenon. This is old knowledge and people have been using these practices for thousands of years. They’ve been passed on despite the efforts of governments to repress and destroy them and they are gathering in popularity again because they work.
Telling men to have sex and not ejaculate sounds crazy but, with some effort, men have found they can have full body orgasms, find more energy, focus… and that their lives have been changed in amazing positive ways.
Misdirected male sexual energy is a dangerous force, even within Tantra.
There have been lots of scandals recently and all of the scandals have involved male teachers who just use it to try to get laid.
That is one of the reasons Tantra is traditionally taught by women.